INSPIRING LIFE SCHOOL PODCAST
EPISODE 14
SELF COACHING ADVICE
INSPIRING LIFE SCHOOL PODCAST
EPISODE 14
TRANSCRIPT SELF COACHING ADVICE
WELCOME TO THIS EPISODE WHICH IS ALL ABOUT THE VERY BEST SELF COACHING TIPS AND ADVICE
In this episode I will be sharing with you some of the best tips I discovered from coaching clients in my life coaching business.
These are 12 tips that I feel are absolutely essential to embrace if you want to dream bigger and do bigger from hereon in your life.
Some of these points will require a mindset shift.
Others are like the rules you might receive before you sign up for a big race.
You know the deal.
If you are planning to run a marathon you might be told in advance to hydrate yourself properly beforehand, know your course ahead of time and make sure to pace yourself when necessary.
Just the same, these are some tips that will help make your dream big adventure a little easier, because you are well aware of what is expected of you and someone has pointed out the obstacles you will come across ahead of time.
So without any further ado, here are my top 12 coaching tips to help you dream bigger and achieve more in your life.
Step 1
YOU NEED TO BE OPEN TO CHANGE
Here’s the truth: if you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got.
This means if you don’t make active and productive changes, your life will stay the same.
If you want things to change, you need to MAKE SOME CHANGES!
You will never accomplish the results you are after until you are willing to do what you don’t necessarily want to do.
Step 2
PEOPLE LIKE TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE
Sometimes it helps to be held accountable to the goals you set.
After all, it is one thing to say you want to achieve some wishy-washy goal and another to be reminded week after week that you have committed yourself to achieving something concrete in the foreseeable future.
When you vocalize your desire for change, your dreams become tangible actions to act upon and accountability is the glue that ties commitment to results.
If you can, try to find this accountability in a close friend or family member.
Step 3
CHASING YOUR DREAMS INVOLVES HARD WORK
Chasing your dreams requires courage, honesty, dedication and commitment.
After all, everything you dream about isn’t going to someday miraculously fall into your lap, no matter how great of a wishful thinker you are.
You need to actually DO SOMETHING to make it happen.
Yes, get out of your seat right now and do something constructive!
Remember dreams don’t work unless you do.
There is no shortcut or elevator to success – you have to take the stairs, even if there are thousand steps.
You have to be prepared to work hard, sweat a lot, make numerous mistakes, fall a hundred times and still get up the next day, scrub your knees and start again, over and over, until things finally go your way.
Step 4
BEING COMMITTED TAKES EFFORT
Don’t assume that just because you read this book you will be automatically injected with a daily dose of enthusiasm, resilience, energy and dedication.
These things come from the process of DOING, which takes active effort on the part of the individual.
Every day you need to remind yourself that life is short and time waits for no one.
Of course it is easier to come home from a job you only half-enjoy and spend the night on the couch watching reruns of your favorite sitcom but where is that behavior going to get you in the long run?
Seriously, ask yourself: are your actions taking you closer to your ultimate goal or further away?
Effort will only release its wonderful reward AFTER you refuse to quit.
Step 5
YOU NEED TO TAKE THINGS ONE STEP AT A TIME
Someone wise once said success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out and I witnessed the truth of this statement more than a hundred times as a life coach.
Don’t expect that you will achieve a massive transformation in one day.
Instead focus on making one small change or taking one small action at a time and all of these small changes will accumulate to a big transformation.
Remember: the way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.
No one ever got to the top of the mountain in one quick jump because the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
You don’t have to see the whole staircase; you don’t even have to know what adventure awaits you.
Just take the first step in the right direction, one step at a time – that is all you really can do.
Step 6
CHASING YOUR GOALS IS SCARY
I didn’t discover this truth until I stepped away from my role as a life coach and set out to achieve my own goals in life.
It doesn’t matter if you have all the tools you require, it doesn’t even matter if you KNOW exactly what it is you need to do like I did with my experience as a life coach and background in psychology.
When it comes to the crunch, a person often feels engulfed by a massive sense of fear while chasing his or her goals, EVEN IF THESES GOALS ARE SMALL.
Maybe it’s the fear of success, failure or commitment; maybe it’s pure laziness and procrastination – whatever the case you need to be prepared for it so you can deal with it in an appropriate and effective manner.
My best advice: feel the fear and do it anyway.
Step 7
YOU WILL HAVE SETBACKS – YOU CAN’T AVOID THEM
If we could have our way, everything would go exactly as planned.
But who are we kidding?
Life doesn’t EVER go according to plan. Instead it constantly offers us hurdles, hiccups, roadblocks and challenges along our way.
It is almost like a test: come on now, the setbacks taunt us, how are you going to get past me? Am I enough to make you give up?
You don’t even deserve to achieve your big dream if every little problem is going to send you into hysterics or make you lose your cool.
Giving up on a goal because of a setback is like slashing your remaining three tires because you got a flat.
You need to remember that no one on this planet is immune to adversity or personal setbacks.
Expect it, embrace it and be prepared to have a backup plan.
Step 8
YOU NEED TO CHANGE THE VIEW YOU VIEW MISTAKES AND CHALLENGES IF YOU WANT TO SUCCEED IN DOING SOMETHING
The biggest problem people have is that they expect to have no problems.
They feel defeated and want to throw in the towel when something goes wrong and they forget that everyone makes mistakes – even the most successful people in this world.
Think of the most happy or successful people you know right now – no matter whom you picked, every wealthy businessman, every celebrity and every normal human being has encountered multiple challenges during their journey through life.
Do you want to know what the biggest difference is between those who feel fulfilled and those who don’t?
Well for starters the dream chasers and achievers don’t waste time grieving over the past – instead they shift the way they view their failures into something positive, they turn them into lessons, learn from them and move on.
Step 9
WE ARE OFTEN OUR OWN WORST ENEMY
What to know what hurts your chances for happiness and success more than any unsupportive family member or criticism from others?
It’s self-doubt.
Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will and when you doubt your power, strength or ability, you give power to your doubt.
It is easy for doubt to win a battle over your pride and emotions and yet it can also easily be defeated by forcefully kicking it to the side and stomping on it.
Stomp on it hard!
The moment you choose to believe in yourself no matter what, even when doubt dancing its crazy dance inside your head, that is when you can finally move forward with ease.
Self-doubt is the anchor which keeps your ship from sailing out to sea.
So cut that stupid unnecessary cord right now and swim out to freedom today.
Step 10
YOU NEED TO STOP PLAYING THE BLAME GAME
I will keep this one short: your life is, quite simply, a direct result of your decisions and choices so far.
You are responsible for your actions, moods and behavior so please don’t try to blame anyone else for your problems or dysfunctions.
Trust me when I say this: if you keep on blaming something or someone else for your problems, you will remain stuck in the same miserable position and never understand or learn why problems keep coming your way.
Stop looking outside; stop pointing fingers at other people and start looking within.
You are the only person who can control your own thoughts and emotions.
Yes, it’s true – only you.
If someone has triggered a negative feeling in you, it is up to you to decide whether you will allow it to affect you or not.
Your feelings are yours and yours alone, nobody has control of your feelings except for you.
YOU GET TO DECIDE, YOU GET TO MAKE A CHOICE. IT IS UP TO YOU!
Step 11
WE ALL HAVE SOMETHING WE WANT TO ACHIEVE
Yes it’s honestly not just business–oriented professionals that like to set goals.
Everyone has something they want to achieve – even those who are confused, disillusioned, scared and, in a nutshell, know they want more out of life, even if they DON’T KNOW exactly what that entails.
Still we all have a desire to be useful and do things that we love to do.
We all have a purpose on this Earth and we all have goals – even if we don’t recognize the fact that we do.
Deep down we all have something more that we are striving to achieve, whether it’s inner peace, financial security or a long-lost forgotten dream.
We are all here for a reason and it’s that we have gifts to share.
What are you good at? What do you want to achieve?
What makes your soul sing with glee?
If you don’t know, then found out!
What is the SOMETHING you need to do?
The meaning of life is to discover your gift and passion then once you have found it, the purpose of life is to give it away and set it free.
Step 12
LIFE IS SHORT
Seriously time races faster than you think it does.
There is no rewind or replay button on life.
There is no time for regrets or time to leave important words unsaid.
One day you will be at the end of your journey and you don’t want to be weighed down by a bucket full of unfulfilled dreams.
Time is precious – so respect and treasure it.
Life is short – so live it.
Dreams are real – so go out and chase them.
Have fun, laugh, play, fall in love, don’t waste your energy worrying about stupid things, break some rules if you have to, regret nothing and don’t let people bring you down.
Everything happens for a reason and life has an odd way of making things work out in the end – as long as you set out to actually DO SOMETHING.
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Hey, I’m Frances Vidakovic! I help you live a richer, lighter life while pursuing dreamy goals – without sacrificing your soul, sanity or family life. 🫶🏻 Author. Coach. Course Creator. DON’T DIE UNHAPPY! → Wake up. Do what matters. Savour it all 🌷